Lyme-Old Lyme Schools Urgently Seek Host Family, Starting in New Year, for Chinese Student

LYME/OLD LYME — 1/5 UPDATE: We are delighted to report that a host family has now been found.

This year Lyme-Old (LOL) Lyme Schools have welcomed several students from other countries, who are attending Lyme-Old Lyme High School (LOLHS) through Study Abroad programs.

They are currently seeking a family to host a male 17-year-old student from China beginning in January of 2024 through the remainder of the school year. 

A host is required to provide room and board for the student, involve the student in family activities and chores, and enrich the student’s experience by including the student in family, community, and cultural activities.

Hosts are compensated at a rate of $1,200 per month.  

Hosts are not required to have children in the Lyme-Old Lyme School system. 

If you are interested in hosting this student, contact LOLHS Principal Jim Wygonik at (860) 434-1651 or wygonikj@region18.org as soon as possible. Although LOL Schools are closed for winter vacation from Dec. 23, 2023 through Jan. 1, 2024 inclusive, Principal Wygonik will be checking his email regularly and respond promptly.

If you are unable to host this student, LOL Schools administration invites you to share this information with anyone you believe may be interested. 

Death of Ryan J. Larson, 37, Announced, Member of Lyme-Old Lyme HS Class of 2005; Classmates Set Up Fundraiser for His Family

Ryan Larson

12/21: UPDATED with full obituary and link to fundraiser started by Ryan’s Lyme-Old Lyme HS classmmates: Hilarious, witty, smart and at peace, Ryan Larson 37, left us suddenly in the early morning of Tuesday December 12, 2023. He felt ill on Monday, he then died peacefully during the night. The family would like to extend their gratitude to Merilyn Vargus for her effort to help by alerting EMT’s. Merilyn and Ryan enjoyed a beautiful friendship and her love for Ryan will be remembered. This loss has left the family with profound sadness but please keep her in your thoughts too.

Ryan leaves his mother Lynn, father Robert (Chris), sister Carolyn (Nate) and daughter Emily Kathryn. We will miss Ryan’s gentle nature more than words can say. Losing a child is not easily put into words nor is explaining the loss to children.

Ryan was laid back and capable. He was good at whatever he put his mind to. He has been a loving father to Emily and Annabelle and loyal friend. He was a great listener who could comfort with patience and change the harshest reality into a slight blow.

Of Ryan’s many accomplishments his most cherished is his daughter Emily, 8 who adores her Dad. He also leaves Em’s sister Annabelle. She has been a part of our family for 10 years along with their mother Kelly, all who will miss his generous spirit beyond measure. Missing him is an extended family of cousins Cristin, Greg, Ben, Ian, Nick and BIll, and aunts Lindy and Heidi Larson. He was predeceased by grandparents John and Henrietta Larson of Deep River.

Ryan was a graduate of the 2005 class at Lyme-Old Lyme. His talent was a welcome addition to The Select Singers with performances in several musicals.

He received his RN at Goodwin College where he thrived and was a respected leader in the Nursing program. He worked as a Peer tutor at the ASC, a tight knit setting where supportive connections with staff felt more like family and where lasting professional relationships were formed. He has worked as an RN for several years.

Ryan’s family will hold a private memorial luncheon in his honor.

Rest peacefully Rylars. You will be with us always…loved and missed everyday .

If you think of Ryan… sing, or laugh out loud .

His Lyme-Old Lyme classmates have started this fundraiser to ensure that Emily, Annabelle, and their mother, Kelly, can make ends meet as they move forward.

Death Announced of Donald T. Logan; Father of Doreen Bartkowski, Melissa Curtis of Old Lyme

TERRYVILLE, CT — Donald T. Logan, of Bristol, passed away on Saturday, (December 16, 2023) at Bristol Hospital. He was the husband, for 73 years, of Dorothy (Yurewitch) Logan …

Donald truly loved his family. Along with his loving wife Dorothy Logan he leaves his devoted daughters, Dawn Dupuis and her husband George of Terryville, Doreen Bartkowski of Old Lyme, and Melissa Curtis of Old Lyme; six grandchildren …

A graveside service with military honors will be held on Friday, December 22 at 11 AM at St. Josephs Cemetery, 151 Farmington Ave, Plainville, CT. All are invited to attend. A celebration of Donald’s life will be held in the Spring …

Visit this link to read the full obituary published by Hartford Courant on Dec. 19, 2023.

CT DOT Reminds Public: ‘Tis the Season to Drive Sober’

HARTFORD/LYME/OLD LYME — This holiday season, the Connecticut Department of Transportation (CTDOT) is joining State and local law enforcement to share the message about the dangers of impaired driving. Motorists will see increased law enforcement presence on Connecticut roadways beginning tonight until January 1, 2024, to take impaired drivers off the roads.

According to National Highway Traffic Safety Administration (NHTSA), in 2021, the last year of verifiable data, 13,384 people were killed in motor vehicle traffic crashes involving an alcohol-impaired driver. This represented 31% of all traffic fatalities in the United States for the year and more than a 14% increase from 2020. In December 2021 alone, 1,013 people died in alcohol-impaired driving crashes.

In Connecticut in 2021, the last year of verifiable data, 112 people were killed in alcohol-impaired crashes, which accounted for nearly 40% of all fatalities in the state.

“Through the winter holiday season, Connecticut law enforcement will participate in the Drive Sober or Get Pulled Over impaired driving enforcement campaign. This enforcement period will feature state and national messages about the dangers of impaired driving, coupled with increased patrols aimed at drastically reducing drunk and drugged driving on our roadways,” said CT DOT Commissioner Garrett Eucalitto. “Drunk or drugged driving is never acceptable. Across the country, a person is killed every 39 minutes in a drunk-driving crash. We need a commitment from every driver to drive sober so that everyone can have a safe holiday.”

“There is no place on Connecticut’s roadways for any driver under the influence of alcohol or any other intoxicating substance. Connecticut police officers are sworn to keep our roadways safe for all to use and will be arresting any driver who chooses to operate a vehicle while intoxicated,” said Watertown Police Chief and Chairman of the Connecticut Police Chiefs Association Traffic Safety Committee Josh Bernegger. “Please designate a sober driver so we all can get home safely this holiday season.”

In Connecticut, driving with a Blood Alcohol Content (BAC) of .08 or higher is illegal. And the costs of being caught drinking and driving are high. An impaired driver could face jail time, lose their driver’s license and vehicle, and pay up to $10,000 in attorney’s fees, fines, higher insurance rates, and lost wages.

Driving impaired by any substance — alcohol or drugs, whether legal or illegal — is against the law in all 50 states and the District of Columbia. Even in states where cannabis laws have changed, it is still illegal to drive under the influence of the drug. Prescription and over-the-counter medications can also impair a motorist’s ability to drive safely, and driving under the influence of over-the-counter medications is illegal.

The CT DOT recommends these safe alternatives to driving impaired:

  • Always designate a sober driver or plan to use public transportation or a ride service to get home safely. Remember that it is never okay to drink and drive.
  • Keep a safe distance from erratic drivers. If you encounter a drunk driver on the road, dial 911 to report the issue.
  • Do not let anyone drive impaired. If you notice someone preparing to drive after consuming alcohol, take their keys away and plan to get them home safely.

For more information about the Drive Sober or Get Pulled Over enforcement period, visit nhtsa.gov/risky-driving/drunk-driving.

Editor’s Note: This article is based on a press release issued Dec. 15 by the Connecticut Department of Transportation.

Gardening Tips from ‘The English Lady’ for December—a ‘Time to Make Amends and Tie Up Loose Ends’

Will there be snow this December?

Hello everyone; so much to do and so little time in this holiday season …

Maureen Haseley-Jones is ‘The English Lady’

Remember, to breathe, stretch and take time out for yourself each day. On a pleasant December day, go out into the garden. There is still time to plant your spring bulb; the earth is still workable so enjoy the fresh air and the gentle exercise.

Plant the bulbs three times as deep as they measure in their upright position. For example, Daffodils should be planted nine inches down below the frost line, spread composted manure, which hopefully you stored in the shed or garage, on the soil where the bulbs are planted.

Don’t worry if you do not have the manure now, as when the bulbs peak up from the soil in spring, you can obtain the composted manure then and spread it around the emerging bulbs at that time.

Right now, it is a sunny afternoon, and I am sitting in my armchair with a delicious cup of Earl Grey tea, inhaling the air wafting from the kitchen, bringing with it the fragrance of cloves. Clove fragrance is an old family tradition that I follow each December, when I fill my great-grandmother’s brass saucepan with water, then add whole cloves, bring the water to the boil, then turn it down to simmer gently. 

The fragrance is a special memory of Christmas in the kitchen of Gran’s thatched roof cottage on the grounds of our plant nursery in England. 

On this side of ‘The Pond’, in early winter before snow falls or even on a sunny day with snow on the ground, there are construction projects that can be accomplished with patios, decks, ponds, and dry stonewalls to repair and build. By accomplishing these tasks in winter, you will be ready to plant in spring. 

If you are not into heavy work, I suggest you call a landscape company that you trust to give you an estimate for your project. In fact, if you would like to get in touch with my son Ian, at LandscapesByIan.com for an estimate or a consult on stonework work or a design for the spring. Ian has been telling me that there is a scarcity of building supplies right now, which might hinder your projects for your garden, unless you act early, like right now.

‘The English Lady’ is sure that snow will soon be with us. This view looking up Maywood in Old Lyme was taken a few years ago by Beth Sullivan.

I am sure that snow will be with us before long, so I hope you have the snow shovel handy or perhaps you decide you need a new one? If so, buy a lightweight wood- handle and plastic shovel instead of heavy metal.

When the storm has passed and you are ready for clearing the paths and driveways, don’t load the shovel heavily, scoop lighter loads. You will get done faster and with less aches and pains, or chance of injury.

If you are not able to clear the snow yourself from driveways, walkways and steps; I’m sure there are some teenagers in your neighborhood who would be willing to help you out.

We need the moisture from the snow for the soil and plants and I hope that we also get a good amount of rain to carry us through to spring.  

If you have not already done so, mulch around the trunks of roses, mounding at least six to nine inches up the stems. As I mentioned earlier, buy a few extra bags of mulch and topsoil, and store them in the garage or shed.  

Tie down the long whip-like rose canes of climbers to supporting structures so they are not broken off by strong winds. If the shrub roses are planted in an exposed area, cover them with a rose cone or if they are larger, cover them lightly with burlap until April.  

I just walked into my living room to check on my Amaryllis bulbs, which have striped blooms. Amaryllis can be enjoyed for a long time with little effort. 

Amaryllis in bloom by ‘I Do Nothing But Love’ on Unsplash.

As the flower buds begin to open, remove the pollen bearing anthers with tweezers, before they begin to shed—this will add days to the flowering period and remember to water.

Once the bloom is finished, deadhead it, remove the bulb from the soil and let it dry off. Store in a cool dark basement or some other cool dry place at about 55 degrees for10 weeks without watering. When you want to start it again, pot up the bulb tightly in fresh potting soil and begin to water again. 

By the way, Amaryllis is poisonous so do not let children or animals eat the flowers.  

Outside my kitchen window I can see the holly bush with lovely red berries, some of which I cut to decorate the house. Holly is a good weather predictor; few berries mean a mild winter, whilst many berries denote a harsh one.  My red and black friends, the ladybugs, have begun to come indoors, earning their keep by consuming white fly and aphids, which often gather on houseplants.      

This week, in the house, I am planting up my first group of paper white narcissus to get a head start on bloom in about a month. I store two dozen bulbs in the vegetable keeper of the refrigerator, away from the food.  I plant half of them now and store the rest in a paper bag in the refrigerator, which I will plant later. With this method I will have continuous bloom and fragrance through the winter months. By keeping the bulbs in the refrigerator, they stay dormant, until planted. 

I plant my bulbs in pebbles, with just enough pebbles to anchor the bulbs and enough depth for the roots to grow. Cram a lot of bulbs in the pot so they are touching – the more bulbs, the more vibrant the display. Make sure the bulb pots do not have drainage holes; if they do, cover the holes with shards of broken pottery.  

I place the planted bulbs in a dark cool room or cupboard, always keeping the pebbles moist. In a few weeks, when the shoots of the narcissus are about six inches tall, I take the vases into a cool room on the south side of the house and place them about six feet away from the window in indirect light where they remain, keeping the pebbles moist until the buds appear.

When the buds appear and the stems are about 12 inches tall, bring them into the area of the house to be enjoyed. Always place them about six- foot from a sunny window and away from draughts and heat. Keep the soil or pebbles moist throughout the life of the plants.

I know that the stems of paper whites get leggy and often topple over. My tall glass vases do not allow this to occur but if you don’t have tall containers, here is a suggestion to keep the plant upright.

An English gardening colleague of mine gave me his ‘gin tip’. He pours a dessertspoon of gin (not the expensive stuff) on the soil or pebbles around the plants every couple of weeks after he has watered them. This limits the height of the stems, so they do not collapse, and the gin does not affect the bloom.

Regarding alcohol, another tip my grandmother whispered is to add a few drops of brandy or port to invigorate potpourri that has gone stale. Personally, I pour a few drops of either lemon oil or lavender oil on the potpourri. 

I know that many of you spread salt on walkways, and driveways to thaw ice. However, the salt ruins plants, when it seeps into borders. Use an alternative like unscented kitty litter or sand that works well. In spring, just hose off steps and paths; the sand and kitty litter are good additions to your soil.

There is still time to prune dead or diseased branches from established deciduous trees and shrubs; it is an easier task to do at this time of year, as you are able to see what needs to be done without foliage obstructing your view. If you would like to have a fall pruning, call a reputable arborist to give you a quote and a team will come and use their practiced eyes to give you a great result.

Last winter, squirrels, raccoons or whomever, got into the birdseed in the milk shed.  I bought out the supermarket’s supply of cayenne pepper that week and sprinkled it on my birdseed to keep the marauders at bay. This trick will also keep those critters out of your garbage. I also sprinkle cayenne pepper in the bird seeders for the feeders and on the suet blocks – the heat of the pepper does not affect the birds – they do not feel the heat.   

To keep moths and bugs away from cupboards and in clothes; collect some remaining herbs, which may be still available, perhaps sage and lavender. Tie them into bunches with string and slip over a hangar in your closet or in a drawer. This week, I put bunches of dried sage in my closets and drawers—insects do not like fragrance and so the sage or lavender keeps insects away. 

A few bags of soil and mulch that you may have stored in the garage or shed will be useful after frost. Often the frost heaves plants above the soil and exposes the roots. The plants roots can be covered and protected with the soil and mulch, until they can be resettled again when spring arrives.   

When a plant is knocked askew by wind, ice or snow, do not be in a hurry to straighten it since, quite often, the plant will bounce back on its own. However, uprooted trees or shrubs should be straightened immediately then staked, their roots covered with soil and mulched, then resettle the plant in the spring. When snow is heavy on the branches of the evergreens, gently brush the snow off with a broom — with ‘gently’ being the operative word.   

When you receive or buy cut flowers during the holiday, of course you want them to last. To accomplish this, your vases need to be squeaky clean. If there is a build up of dirty residue that regular soap and water won’t budge, try adding a little coarse sand to dislodge the mucky residue, then use soap and rinse well.  For a narrow or globe-shaped vase ,use a bottlebrush.           

Poinsettias:

Photo by Jessica Johnston on Unsplash.

I receive many questions about how to keep Poinsettias alive.  I have a friend who has kept the same poinsettia alive for eight years. After blooming, she places the plant in a cool room, watering when the top of the soil feels dry, then in late May puts it, still in its container in the garden. In September, she brings it into her porch and begins gently watering. A combination I enjoy is poinsettias in a container with ivy and forced spring bulbs.  

I was always curious as to how Poinsettias got their name. Last year I heard an old story on that very subject.

‘In a tiny village in Mexico, the tradition on Christmas Eve was to put gifts before the Crèche at the Church. A poor young boy, who had nothing to offer, went outside and knelt in the snow praying for a gift to give the newborn king. Where he knelt, a beautiful plant with vivid scarlet leaves appeared beside him and the boy joyfully presented his gift to the Christ Child. Thus, Mexicans call the plant Flor de la Noche Buena (Flower of the Holy Night), many believe the plant resembles the Star of Bethlehem. 

Dr Joel Roberts Poinsett, the first minister to Mexico, brought the plant to the United States in the 1830’s, and it is for him that the plant is now named’.

On a delicious note to end my tips this year – I present my recipe for English trifle – a scrumptious dessert at Christmas.

ENGLISH TRIFLE

This dessert is made of layers, made over a three-day period; it requires this length of time for each layer to set. I use a nine-inch-tall glass bowl, as the appearance of this dessert is as mouth-watering as the taste.  

Ingredients:
2 pints of strawberries or raspberries (you can use frozen strawberries or raspberries, and omit the sugar)
2 tablespoons of sugar on fresh fruit 
1-package ladyfingers or sponge cake or pound cake
1-cup Harvey’s Bristol Cream Sherry (omit the sherry if you do not want the alcohol) instead use water to make the Jell-O 
1 small package strawberry or raspberry-flavored Jell-O

1 small package of vanilla custard mix or Birds English custard (see note)
1 -pint whipped cream

Combine washed and drained fresh strawberries/raspberries and sugar in a bowl and set aside at room temperature for about an hour.

In a 9-inch glass bowl, cover the bottom of the bowl with ladyfingers or sponge cake or pound cake, cut into 2-inch slices.  Drain the strawberries and reserve the juice.  Cover the cake with the fruit.

Add sherry to the reserved fruit juice to make one cup.  Prepare Jell-O using the fruit juice-sherry mixture as the cold-water part of the Jell-O mix, and hot water for the other part.  Pour the Jell-O over the fruit and cake layer, then refrigerate until it sets (usually about two hours or overnight).

When the Jell-O is set, prepare the custard and spread over the cake/fruit/Jell-O layer.  Refrigerate until custard is set.  

The day you serve the trifle spread a thick layer of unsweetened whipped cream over the top.    

If you are serving more people, repeat the cake, fruit, and Jell-O layers and top with the whipped cream.  

The nine-inch bowl serves 6 to 8.

Note: I use Birds English Custard mix, which can be found in specialty food stores and most supermarkets.  

 Have a wonderful Holiday and I’ll see you in your garden in January.  Be safe, well and enjoy!

About the author: Maureen Haseley-Jones is a member of a family of renowned horticultural artisans, whose landscaping heritage dates back to the 17th century. She is one of the founders, together with her son Ian, of, The English Lady Landscape and Home Company. Maureen and Ian are landscape designers and garden experts, who believe that everyone deserves to live in an eco-conscious environment and enjoy the pleasure that it brings. Maureen learned her design skills from both her mother and grandmother, and honed her horticultural and construction skills while working in the family nursery and landscape business in the U.K. Her formal horticultural training was undertaken at the Royal Botanic Gardens at Kew in Surrey.