“Eat, Pray, Love” by Elizabeth Gilbert

Jen has reviewed one of our favorite books this week.  We agree with her conclusion that “Eat Pray Love” by Liz Gilbert should be “required reading” for every woman.  It is indeed a delightfully refreshing approach to self-discovery and as Jen points out, how wonderful it would be if only we could all follow it  – as Liz did – in Italy, India and Bali.

Whenever a lot of people tell me to read a book, I, ironically, shy away.  Who knows why this is?  Maybe I like the surprise of finding it myself.  Maybe I have had the unpleasant feeling of dis-liking the heartily recommended book ( Loving Frank, The Shack, The Emperor’s Children).

This time I listened and I may have to again.

Eat, Pray, Love
 was fabulous.  Thank you Ms. Talbot, thank you.  It was a truly moving, mind-altering, heart-opening, cultural shock of a book.  Liz Gilbert is a good, good writer and being privy to her thoughts is a real pleasure.

I have found myself thinking on it so often I can not imagine nothaving found it.  Gilbert’s approach to self-discovery is so profoundly relevant to so many women’s lives that it should be required reading.  Everyone deserves to find out more about themselves.

If we could all do it in Italy, at an Indian shram and in Bali, it would be transforming to society at large.  As she says, one happy-centered person brings immeasurable joy to everyone around him/her.  You can not hope to change other people but you can make yourself a positive influence in the universe with far-reaching effect.

As Liz finds herself desperately needing to free herself from a crippling marriage, we meet her.  I liked her immediately and hoped she would accomplish nothing less than what she does.  She travels to find herself.  She travels to free herself.  She takes four months in three countries to discover what it is that will make her innately content.

In Italy she discovers food can open her heart.  In India she discovers that severe introspection is tough but life-alteringly beneficial.  In Bali she learns to find a balance between the two.  What a joy it is to be with her.  She learns and teaches us so much.

She takes a negative and molds it into a positive.  She searches for herself and finds the world is ready to help and to embrace anyone who wants to be better.  As Jack Nicholson says in As Good as it Gets,” (she) makes me want to be a better person.

What better compliment is there?

“Life As We Knew It” by Susan Beth Pfeffer

Jen reviews Life As We Knew It by Susan Beth Pfeffer this week.  She wonders whether it really is “just a coincidence that these books keep throwing themselves at me.”  By “these books,” she means books that cause you to reevaluate your life priorities and in light of the current economic situation, that’s perhaps something about which we should all be thinking.

Maybe it is not just a coincidence that these books keep throwing themselves at me.  The powers that be must really want me to pontificate endlessly about appreciating the important things in life, dealing with the non-crucial, and learning the difference.  Maybe they are trying to tell mesomething and you are just along for the ride.

Life As We Knew It is about a catastrophic, orbital anomaly that throws the moon out of whack upsetting the delicate balance of our planet.  The tides revolt, ash covers the sky, temperatures plummet and millions die.

Society at large is broken down to the bare bones.  Your family will keep you alive.  You will keep you alive.

No help.  That’s it.

Miranda, a teenage girl* lives in Pennsylvania with her Mother and two brothers.  Her divorced Dad and his new pregnant wife pass through.  A close neighbor is on the scene and a few friends, but her world keeps getting smaller and smaller.  As supplies dwindle to practical extinction, as gas prices soar and then it disappears, as town support vanishes, Miranda’s family learns to support itself.

There is no one and nothing else on which they can rely.  Is the prom important?  Is homework?  No.

Shelter is.  Food is.  Immediate family is.

Nothing else.

Like Laura Ingalls, World Without End, and the myriad of other books I have reviewed in this context, this is about changing your priorities.  Our present financial circumstances might be less extreme but it is all relative.  One man’s joy is another man’s burden.

The book is a good lesson, as well as a good story, in strength.  Man is capable of amazing acts of self-preservation and empathy.

Miranda must balance the needs of self against the needs of her family.  Everything must be savored and appreciated, most of all the love they have for one another that ultimately is the reason for living.

When I worry about bills, and schools, and relationships, what I … what we … need to remember is that very few of these issues are truly important.  Figure out what is first.

Take care of yourself and your family and those who can not help themselves.  Be kind and compassionate.  You need food and shelter.  You need love and safety.

A new Mercedes might seem critical but you know it isn’t.  (Give it to me if you just have to buy one.)

I know I am starting to sound like little Mary Sunshine, but the older I get and the more crisis I live through, the stronger and more focused I get.  Life As We Knew It will remind us how it’s done.

* it is technically a young adult book but that has never stopped me before and it makes no difference.  I also just finished the sequel The Dead and The Gone, which tells the same story through a different set of characters who survive the catastrophe in NYC.  Equally good.

Graduation at Lyme Academy College

By: Linda Ahnert Published 05/18/09

Adjusting those hats one last time.

25 Seniors Receive B.F.A. Degrees, Honorary Doctorate Awarded to Aaron Shikler

May is the time for graduation at colleges across the country. And last Saturday, this springtime ritual took place at the Lyme Academy College of Fine Arts. The college—whose mission is to educate artists—awarded Bachelor of Fine Arts degrees in painting or sculpture to 25 students.

The commencement ceremony was held in the auditorium of the Lyme-Old Lyme Middle School.

While one student walks by, a large mirror in the Lyme-Old Lyme Middle School cafeteria captures the reflection of other students preparing for the ceremony.

The noted American sculptor Elisabeth Gordon Chandler founded the Lyme Academy in 1976 because of her concern that art schools were no longer putting the emphasis on skill development in representational art. Today the college is one of the few schools in the country which is solely focused on the fine arts.
The college’s president, Debra Petke, welcomed the audience and told the graduates that “you have been a really extraordinary class” and thanked the faculty “for demanding excellence of our students.”

A smiling Emily Bedard enters the auditorium.
Laura Zarrow, the college’s new dean and vice president of academic affairs, also noted “that the level of accomplishment was very high.” Students receiving special awards were:Thurston Belmer for excellence in painting; Emily Bedard (pictured above) and Darren Beistle for excellence in sculpture. Adrian Waggoner was the recipient of the John Stobart Fellowship. The Diana Atwood Johnson Leadership Award was presented to Jeremy Wilson (pictured below.)

Wilson was also chosen by his classmates as the student speaker. He noted that he “wanted to say something heartfelt and profound,” but that it was hard to reduce four years into a few sentences. So he used the metaphor of an artist making marks for a sketch or painting to try and describe his college experience. The artist must keep making marks to create a work—drawing on the successes and learning from the failures—to reach his next level.
He thanked “all those who have struggled to get us here”—not just the faculty, but also family and friends. And he concluded that “we are ready to make the right marks.”
President Petke presented the Distinguished Service in Art Education Award to Andrea Haas. She is the president of the Connecticut Art Education Association and has taught art to elementary, middle, and high school students.

Associate Professor Peter Zallinger (pictured above) was recognized for outstanding faculty service. Petke explained that this particular honor is not granted annually. But this year the award was merited because Zallinger had also served as the interim dean until the recent appointment of Laura Zarrow. Petke said of Zallinger, “It was a job well-done.”

After a speech by Susan Nichols (pictured above) from the Class of 2008, who represented the Alumni Association, the college then conferred an honorary Doctor of Fine Arts degree on Aaron Shikler for his achievements as an artist in a career which has spanned over 50 years.
He is best known for his official White House portraits—including those of First Ladies Jacqueline Kennedy, Lady Bird Johnson, and Nancy Reagan.

Aaron Shikler (left) stands beside Laura Zarrow, Dean and Vice-President of Academic Affairs, immediately prior to giving his Commencement Address.

One of Shikler’s most noted works is his posthumous portrait of John F. Kennedy. This oil painting of Kennedy—with his arms folded across his chest and looking downward in a thoughtful pose—was recently pictured in newspapers. Shortly after President Obama moved into the White House, he was photographed looking up at Shikler’s portrait of Kennedy.
Not only has Shikler had a long and distinguished career, he also has had a close association with the Lyme Academy where he served on the faculty from 1986 until 1994. In fact, Shikler said that he has been in many classrooms, but that his “most enjoyable time teaching was in Old Lyme.” He added that, “it was a small community where everyone knew each other and it was lovely.”

While the graduates, two of whom are pictured above, have learned the “mechanics of discipline in painting and sculpture,” Shikler noted that there is still something missing. This is something that “no teacher can give you and that you must find on your own.”
Though the students have acquired the skills, they must learn for themselves what makes a true artist. Shikler concluded by noting that “when you find the answer, you will know it . . . that is what art is and what makes it great.”

After the ceremony, a champagne reception was held at the Academy (above) for all the graduates, faculty, speakers and guests.

The Lyme Academy College of Fine Arts graduates are: Alexis Jane Baliotis, Emily Ann Bedard, Darren Carter Beistle, E. Thurston Belmer, Phillip Berry, Kathryn Elena Brubaker, Kenneth Caldwell, Emilio Coyra, Drew Ashley Gilbert Driscoll, Jr., Jason W. Fay, Robert James Kramer, Judd Levy, Samantha Marie Linn, Sherrie Lyn Parenteau, Tyler Martin Pindell, Alan R. Proctor, Tallmadge S. Renault, Shane Scarratt, Samantha Smith, Alicia Renee Templin, William Touhey, Adrian Waggoner, Dinah Lacy Williams, Jeremy Lawrence Wilson, and Sophie Eliza Wondolowski.

“Odd Lot,” “Oddest Yet,” “Wicked Odd”, “Even Odder”, All by Steve Bur

Our editor has just resolved a huge mystery, namely, “Is Jen Mann real?” She had never met Ms. Mann, though every week a wonderful book review arrived from her. The two ladies have finally connected, but mysteries continue to brew in Lyme crafted by “Sinister Minister”, Steve Burt, … and Jen is right there to review them for us.

Steve Burt is a piece of work.  A minister at the First Congregational Church of Lyme by day, creepy short story writer by night.*  Most of ancient Sanskrit glorifies the necessity for balance.

Man is not one thing.  He is many.  Good and Evil are both part of the natural order.  You must embrace and work with both sides of your nature.  If you need someone to emulate, someone who seems to do this instinctively, Steve Burt is your man.

God is everywhere.  He is a part of all people and all things and all religions.  He is certainly a part of the two Steve Burts.  As wonderful as I hear he is on Sunday Mornings, he is wonderful as the self proclaimed,” Sinister Minister”.
I have had so much fun lying on a dock on Mount Desert Island (creepy and sparsely habitated at the best of times) reading these stories to my children.  We all shriek and scream and I thought the time had come to quietly read them to myself again.Knowing that an introspective religious mind lies beneath the top layer makes them all the more interesting.  They do not preach; they do not gloat about obedience; they simply give you the shivers.
I have many favorites; The StrandThe SwimmerLighthouse Moths among them.  The strand especially gives me the willies.  A grand dame of her own island in Maine and her caretaker stealthily cultivate giant pearls.  How?  Why?  Not telling – but I will say we all left the dock immediately after finding out.  Fast.  Like The Tattoist, the main characters are not evil (maybe) but they ensure that the ones who are get their come-uppance.
My children, ages 5-10, love Steve Burt’s stories.  I, older than dirt, love these stories.  As summer beckons, so do lazy days reading to the children in the hammock.  These books will have you all glancing into the woods and under the rocks as you do.
* I heard from the horse’s mouth that a series of books is coming about children with special powers.  I will be first in line.  You should be second.

 

“The Pacific and Other Stories” by Mark Helprin

This week our favorite book reviewer divulges her favorite author.  Jen confesses Mark Helprin is her choice and takes us deep into The Pacific … to prove the point.  She says this book “moved her to tears in its unadulterated glory,” which translates roughly as “Go forth and read [it.]”

If I were to choose – well, I sort-of do – my favorite writer would be Mark Helprin.

When A Winter’s Tale came out, a book reviewer for The New York Times said that he was almost afraid to write his review for fear of not doing the book justice.  I empathize.  Truly.

The Pacific and Other Stories (The Pacific) moved me to tears in its unadulterated beauty.

Mark Helprin is my favorite kind of writer.  He is highly educated* and attuned to the gifts prevalent in the world around him.  The pain, the joy, it all works in synch and through his eyes, it is a wonder.
The Pacific is a collection of short stories.  Many have been published in the New YorkerThe Atlantic, Esquire and The Wall Street Journal.  Each is a treasure.  As finky as that sounds, it is true.  Reading them is like finding a diamond in the sandbox.**
I was entranced by MONDAY and Perfection in particular.  MONDAY is about a gift. An exceptionally heartfelt transcendent gift given to a 9/11 widow by her contractor. The beauty, compassion and honor in this gift made me clutch the book to my chest.  Honor is a very undervalued trait and Helprin manifests it in spades.
PERFECTION is a once in a blue moon story.  The cleverness is almost unsurpassed.  A small, holocaust-surviving Hasidic boy playing ball with the Yankees.  The Yenkiss!  Mickey Mantle and this boy change history through the power of God.  Upon seeing a ball fly out over the stadium off over the Atlantic, the manager is stunned.  “Stengel dropped to his knees and said “ Holy cow”, more softly than people usually say holy cow, and he kept repeating it, as if he were in conversation with himself, a conversation limited to those two words spoken with different emphasis and intonation…”holy cow. Ho-ly cow. Ho-ly cow! Holy cow? Holy…cow! Ho-ly ca-ow? Holy? Cow? and so on, quietly, madly.”  It is remarkable and hilarious.  Helprin’s dry, clever humor is the pinnacle to which we all should aspire.
 
The Pacific is a collection that changes your outlook on the world around you for the better.  If we read him often enough, maybe it could stick with us.  It should.  The differences in our lives for appreciating the thinly-veiled, splenderous gravitas of the world in which we live would be limitless.
Read Mark Helprin and open your eyes.
* Harvard, Princeton and Oxford.
** Not that you could pay me money to search through mine…