“A Cup of Tea” by Amy Ephron

Jen’s book choice this week is, “A Cup of Tea” by Amy Ephron and Jen sensibly suggests it’s a book well worth reading with one, but does venture to warn, “… enjoy drinking it cold, since you will be too engaged to remember it’s there.”  So we’re definitely off to the library for this one, a story of a chance meeting with extraordinary consequences.

What a talented family.  Many of you know Delia from her riotous children’s books and screenplays (How to Eat like a Child, Bewitched, Hanging Up, and more), Nora from her wonderful adult books and screenplays (Heartburn, Sleepless in Seattle, When Harry met Sally,I Feel Bad About My Neck to name but a few), Hallie (Never Tell a Lie, 1001 Books for Every Mood).

Here is yet another gifted sister.  Amy Ephron wrote this book 12 years ago and I am surprised I never found it before now.  “A Cup of Tea” is a rich, quick read.

The main characters find themselves in a situation that goes from innocuous altruism to violent stürm und drang.  One small event catapualts them all into unchartered territory.  If we are not to believe in fate, then this story puts random kindness in danger.
Let’s say its fate that certain things happen.  Things are meant to be or they are not.  Otherwise the fear of the power of our actions could be debilitating.  Case in point is Rosemary Fell.  A life reasonably devoid of calignosity makes her self-centered and unwittingly positive.  Does she have control over her carefully ordered life or is it pre-ordained that the chips will fall where they may?
When she sees a beautiful peer (in age not social stature) in trouble, she offers a hand.
Eleanor Smith takes her hand and there is no looking back.  Rosemary’s fiancee meets Eleanor, as does her best friend, Jane, and wheels are set a-roll.
None of their lives will be the same as they were before the chance encounter of Rosemary and Eleanor.
A simple cup of tea can have unseen, but far-reaching conclusions.  It is an interesting dilemma the reader is offered.  Should Rosemary have offered assistance.  Is this a penalty for its being done in a self-serving vain way?  We wonder if it were possible for Rosemary to alter this path had she simply chosen not to offer Miss Smith assistance.  Is it possible that one small change sends their lives rushing out of orbit and was that moment carved in stone or avoidable?
Surely it would have been in Rosemary’s best interest to do nothing.  Does Eleanor overstep the bounds of propriety by abusing a kindness?  But was she owed a kindness by a woman who has everything, when she herself has nothing?
Would that insinuate that societal structures interfere with basic human rights and disrupt the balance of equals?  Possibly.  A good book is one that raises many questions and is this captivating, despite its length.  Ms. Ephron succeeds in making it both memorable and thought-provoking, whilst keeping the plot moving.
“A Cup of Tea” may be the perfect book to read while having one … but enjoy drinking it cold, since you will be too engaged to remember it’s there.

 

“The Shack” by William P. Young

Jen takes us to “The Shack” this week and deep into a world of theological and idealogical questioning intertwined with a quest for a peace.  Her review of William P. Young’s recent novel is insightful, inspiring and intriguing, or to put it another way, we can’t wait to snuggle up with this book (and its seasonally-appropriate cover) in front of a roaring fire.

This is going to be hard to do without offending anyone.  Any book that embraces a political, social or religious view will inevitably alienate someone with a different view.

In the interests of exhibiting unbiased book reviewer-ness and maintaining a modicum of personal interest, I will truly try to be non-preachy (pun-intended.)

Heck, this may be too hard even for my formidable talents, so just give me the benefit of the doubt.  To neither an atheist nor a bible-thumper be is my humble intention.As Grouch Marx said, “These are my principles.  If you don’t like them, I have others.”

In “The Shack,” Mackenzie Philips is a 40-something married father of five children.  After barely surviving a terribly abusive, religious, alcoholic (good combo) father, he raises himself and tries to keep his heart open to God.  He is a good man.
Horribly, his six-year-old daughter falls prey to a serial killer and her death trips an internal “Off” switch in Mack.  He enters a period he refers to as the, “Great Sadness.”  Where is his salvation?  How could this be allowed to happen to his daughter?  Where is God?
Mack is very angry with God, although he tries not to be.  One wintry day, he receives a note that will save him.
He is mysteriously invited to the shack where his daughter’s bloody clothes were found.  I hate reading books like this and, as of this point, was not happy to be obliged to continue.
But I did and what he finds is quite something.  Without ruining the plot, he finds the help he needs to be at peace.  He meets entities that have words of wisdom and strength.  Their guidance is hard but necessary and Mack “re-turns” to his heart.
For the record*, I believe in God, but I do not believe that most organized religion is other than a human creation to maintain power over others and, as such, is dangerous.  I do not think God wants us to be exclusionary or hierarchichal within human bounds.  No one is better than any one else and, excuse me, has no one heard of science?  Wm. Paul Young has very strong, clear thoughts along these lines, some with which I agreed and some with which I did not.  If Jesus were the forest, somewhere along the way the forest got lost for the trees.
That aside, “The Shack” is interesting.  No denying that this is an important subject and it is a creative approach.  I don’t like being preached to and I found it a bit pedestrian in its over-simplicity.  Chicken Soup-type stuff.  There is certainly a place for this, however, and it is never a bad book that recommends love, forgiveness, and offers more than the eye can see.
*Good job keeping my thoughts to myself, hmm?  Now you appreciate what my poor husband goes through …

Coach Roach Enters Hall of Fame

By: Olwen Logan Published 01/14/09

Two sporting heroes from Lyme-Old Lyme Public Schools at very different stages of their respective careers received special honors this past Sunday at the Connecticut Girls’ Soccer Coaches Association (CGSCA) 19th Annual All-State Hall of Fame banquet held at the Aqua-Turf Club in Plantsville, Conn.

District 18 Athletic Director Rob Roach, pictured above, was inducted into the CGSCA Hall of Fame and Lyme-Old Lyme High School (LOLHS) junior Brittany Cowee was presented with the organization’s 2008 Adversity Award.

Don Desautels (pictured below), varsity coach of the girl’s high school soccer team, introduced Roach to the large audience describing him as a “pioneer” in the world of girls’ soccer.  Prior to this role, however, Roach had excelled in his own soccer career scoring the winning goal for his Old Lyme High School team in its first state championship in 1966 and, while at St. Anselm College, earning NSCAA Division II All-American honors in 1971.

Desautels noted that Roach started his teaching career in Old Lyme in 1975 and introduced the girls’ soccer program the same year.  Roach’s coaching career continued until 1990 and during that time his team was runner-up in the state finals in 1985 and won the All-Shoreline Conference in 1984, 1988 and 1990.

Roach was appointed Athletic Director in 1990, a position he still holds.  Commenting on all the other roles he fills, Desautels noted that, apart from being a behavioral science teacher, “He’s a sounding board for parents who call him, a mentor for kids, and even served as Interim Assistant Principal recently.” Concluding with a chuckle, Desautels said, “Aside from being First Selectman, he’s done it all.”

Accepting his award, Roach said, “I’m honored to be the oldest [inductee] and flattered you’ve gone back so far.”   He added that he believes passionately in the importance of sports for students, saying, “We want kids to have meaningful programs to be involved in.”  Roach (above) then confessed he was very nervous as he spoke, not from the event, but due to the fact the Giants were playing the Eagles that afternoon in the Superbowl playoffs!

Commending and thanking his wife Maryanne, pictured with him above, for her support throughout the years, Roach told the story of how he announced to her one day that he had given a last minute invitation to the whole soccer team to join him for breakfast at his home the next day.  It transpired that she, unbeknown to him, had planned a surprise 40th birthday party him the same evening – also at his home.  Unfazed, she hosted both events with finesse.

Later in the proceedings, New London Day sports reporter Vicki Fulkerson (above, right) went to the podium to introduce Brittany Cowee (left).  Fulkerson had interviewed Cowee during the previous soccer season and her article had brought Cowee’s health situation to the attention of CGSCA officials.  Cowee was fitted with a heart pacemaker last summer but, in Fulkerson’s words, “was playing soccer in spite of it.”

Fulkerson admitted she had, “worried this was going to be a tough interview with a player I didn’t really know that well.”  Her concern was unwarranted since their conversation, “was punctuated with laughter,” and she had concluded, “This wasn’t a case of a kid feeling sorry for herself.  This was clearly a kid with a great sense of appreciation.  For life.  For the support of her parents … For the gift of being able to still grace a soccer field.”

Concluding by describing her as, “A great inspiration both on the soccer field and off it,” Fulkerson handed the Adversity Award to Cowee, who then gave a polished speech (above) in response, thanking her coaches, “for putting up with me,” her parents Cindy and Brian (pictured below) and teammates, and congratulating all the other All-State award winners.

Apart from Cowee, the other two girls who received girls’ soccer All-State honors from Old Lyme were Catherine Logan and Tory McKnight.

2008 Girls’ Soccer All-State Award winners from Old Lyme are (from left to right) Brittany Cowee, Catherine Logan and Tory McKnight with their high school soccer team coach Don Desautels.

“A World Made by Hand” by James Howard Kunstler

After the briefest of breaks, our beloved Jen is back and, never one to ease us in gently, she throws us headlong into the new year with a book that makes you sit straight up in your chair and say, “Wow.”  James Howard Kunstler’s, “A World Made by Hand” is a sort of “back to the future” book in revese … if that makes any sense, and we, like Jen, are hooked.

I now feel a bit like the proverbial wolf-crying boy.  If I am effusive about every book, then how on earth can I impress upon you when I really, reallyenjoy a book?  I’m sure you see where I am heading with this self- flagalation … “World Made By Hand” is a good book.

A very good book.

One of my favorites in fact.

It also weirdly ties in with my recent rash of readings.  The postulating I have been doing on the specialness of the trivial aspects of our lives.  The fact that simplicity and appreciation beat a full flush every time.  In times of trouble, less is more.  Is it Divine intervention that these books keep falling in my lap?  Possibly.  I swear I just peruse the shelves and pick what looks interesting, but it seems awfully prescient in our current times.

A mix of Laura Ingalls Wilder and “The Host”, this book is about the future reverting to the past.  Not far in the future, the world has changed radically.  Terrorists have bombed enough major cities that global trade screeches to a halt and America is left alone and in turmoil.  Government implodes as democracy is annihilated by lack of electrical power.  As literal power is rendered obsolete, all communication is impossible.  Without communication there is fear.  Fear creates chaos.  Order on a large scale is obsolete.
As one nation under god becomes divisible, the structured society we spent hundreds of years cultivating is burned to its roots.
Doctors, computer programers, college professors, bond traders et al are now farming the land.  They are operating without anesthesia, building without power tools, and governing without structure.  Everyone who is lucky enough to have escaped the carnage of the cities, the ravishes of both endemic and pandemic disease, and the cruelty of man, is trying to the same way that the pioneers had to live.
Food is home-grown, trading is minimal, clothes are made, and horses are prized.  Without the “necessities” we had come to depend upon, a new kind of need is born.  Music, food, warmth, water, light and friendship.  TV, radio, cars, and modern medicine are all replaced by local churches, candlelit parties, town meetings and musicians.
A prosperous, happy man will be one who tends to the basic needs of his family and neighbors.  People share crops and dairy.  A sweet piece of walnut bread wrapped in cloth is a gift beyond measure.How well we would all do to remember that.
As we follow the major characters through hardship and fears, we find many joys inherent to this simpleness.  People are brought together to survive.  Small town companionship interwoven with reliance is a great gift.  Love born from loss can be magnificently sweet.
The people who persevere are rewarded.  They take pains to maintain fairness and avoid lawlessness.  A new town government is instituted to achieve the original goal of the preamble to the constitution.It seems like small potatoes, but this is the new beginning … “We the People of the United States, in Order to form a more perfect Union, establish Justice, insure domestic Tranquility, provide for the common defence, promote the general Welfare, and secure the Blessings of Liberty to ourselves and our Posterity, do ordain and establish this Constitution for the United States of America.”