Death of David Jacobs Announced, Met His Wife-to-be at Old Lyme Beach 75 Years Ago

BOYNTON BEACH, FL — David Jacobs, “Doody”, age 95, died peacefully at his home in Boynton Beach, FL, June 5, 2020 with his loving and devoted wife of over 70 years, Frances (Dunn) by his side. He was predeceased by his parents Joseph and Esther (Lefcovitz) and six siblings …

… Retirement also allowed David and Frances the time to spend their summers in Old Lyme, CT. It was at the beach that they met almost 75 years ago.

Visit this link to read the full obituary published on PalmBeachPost.com.

Old Lyme Library Celebrates Phoebe’s 122nd Birthday with Ice Cream, Smiles

All photos by Martha Shoemaker.

OLD LYME — The Phoebe Griffin Noyes (PGN) Library in Old Lyme celebrated its 122nd birthday yesterday by serving 122 ice creams — well, actually it was around 200!

Smiling library staff and volunteers were out in force on the grounds of the PGN Library fronting onto Lyme St. waving signs …

… saying how pleased they were to see community members again and encouraging those who were driving or walking by to stop and accept a brown bag, which contained …

… an ice cream and a book mark about this year’s Read. Explore. Learn! summer program.

Ably supported by the Old Lyme Police Department, people of all ages cheerfully accepted brown bags from staff.

Phoebe herself, aka Mary Dangremond, stopped by to take in the festivities. Dangremond has been portraying Phoebe for many years at numerous events.

Established as a free public library in 1897 and dedicated in 1898, the building construction was funded by the generous gift of Charles H. Ludington in honor of his mother-in-law, Phoebe Griffin Noyes.
In the photo above, Eleanor Hufford carefully hands a bag to Library Director’s daughter Maggie Huffman.

Asked how she felt the event had gone, Library Director Katie Huffman replied enthusiastically, “It was such a heartwarming day! …

… We were so pleased to share a bit of fun with the community and to say thanks for their support. And of course, it was fabulous to see some of our patrons after all these months of isolation!”

The ice cream was supplied by the Old Lyme Ice Cream Shoppe and …

… sponsored by the Old Lyme Historical Society and the Lyme-Old Lyme Chamber of Commerce.

The PGN Library itself remains closed to the public due to COVID-19 and ongoing interior renovations.

If you need assistance using their online resources, help connecting to local or regional services, or general research assistance, call 860-598-0490 and a staff member will assist you from home.

The Library will begin accepting returns on Monday, July 6. All returned items will be quarantined for 72 hours in compliance with state and CDC requirements.

Due to this, the book drops will remain closed, but materials may be dropped off at the Library during the following times:

  • Monday-Thursday: 9 a.m. – 7 p.m.
  • Friday: 9 a.m. – 5 p.m.
  • Saturday: 9 a.m. – 1 p.m.

The PGN Library staff and board anticipate reopening in a limited capacity later in July once the shelving and collections are back in place.

 

A Bumper Edition of A la Carte: Pad Thai & Scampi (with ‘Metro Bis’ & ‘Trader Joe’s’ Connections Respectively)

Lee White

Editor’s Note: We apologize but somehow we missed the first of these contributions from Lee White. It should have been published a week ago (June 17), but — in the simplest of terms — it wasn’t. However, we can’t (nor do we want to) just skip it because Lee’s recipes are too good to miss and also the story in her preamble is in two-parts, so you need to read last weeks before this weeks. Does that make any sense? We hope so! Enjoy … and, as always, ‘bon appetit’!

June 17

It had been a sad week for Minneapolis and the rest of the world. On Sunday, as much of American knows, the week ended with a peaceful march. Mine ended in Groton, Connecticut, as around 1,000 Fitch High School student-led citizens walked from one of our parks to the City of Groton Municipal Building. We board of education members met at the former Fitch Middle School and gave bottles of water to marchers.

And, of course, there is the pandemic. Mine began on March 13, the day our school (and most others) decided that our students would not be coming back to their teachers and their classrooms. Except for two doctors’ appointments, I’ve had no one in my home, hadn’t shared a meal with friends or family, hadn’t hugged anyone or shook anyone’s hand. My heart is sad for those who have lost friends and family.

Today I am making gallons of pasta sauce for my neighbors and to take to E. Bloomfield, N.Y., south of Rochester. My niece and her daughter will fly to pick up my sister-in-law and drive them all to their home in New Mexico. It may be the last time I see my husband’s sister, whose dementia has progressed to the point where she can no longer live in her mid-1800’s house, a place where I met my soon-to-be husband and, a year later, she began as the sister I had never had before.

Last evening I thought about making pad Thai, My friend Chris Prosperi, whose parents are Austrian and French, learned to make Pad Thai from a Thai friend years before he opened his incredible restaurant, Metro Bis, in Simsbury, Conn. He has as much Asian blood as I do, but this is the just a piece of the circle that becomes our family, too.

Pad Thai Sauce

1 bottle (32 Ounces) Mae Ploy sweet chili sauce
2 and ½   cups sugar
3 cups water
½ cup fish sauce
3 cups rice vinegar 

In a sauce pot on medium high heat combine all ingredients. Simmer for 2 minutes until all sugar is dissolved. Cool and set aside. Recipe makes 1 gallon which may be used as a dipping sauce for spring rolls, marinade for chicken, or dressing for salad greens when mixed with oil. The sauce will keep in the refrigerator for two months.

Photo by Timothy Dykes on Unsplash.

Pad Thai Noodles

Yield: 2 servings

1 package medium rice noodles
1 to 3 tablespoon vegetable oil
½ pound chicken, thinly sliced
4 eggs
¾ cup pad Thai sauce or more if you like (recipe above)
1 12-ounce package mung bean sprouts (but any sprouts will do)
½ cup scallions (green onions), chopped
½ cup chopped dry roasted peanuts
1 lime, quartered 

In a large mixing bowl soak the noodles in warm water until pliable, approximately 20 minutes. Drain and set aside. On high heat in a hot wok or large sauté pan heat oil and add chicken. Stir fry for 2 to 3 minutes. Crack the eggs into the pan and stir fry until the eggs are cooked and scrambled. Add pad Thai sauce and reduce the mixture. Place a good handful of noodles in the pan approximately (2 cups or so) and cook for an additional 3 to 4 minutes until the liquid starts to dry. Fold in 1 cup of sprouts and the scallions. Remove from the heat and serve with sliced lime, chopped peanuts and the remaining bean sprouts. Top with optional chili garlic sauce for more spice. Extra noodles may be refrigerated for up to 1 week.

June 24

The drive back from Rochester was uneventful, but on the way I realized that I had driven for 13 out of the past 30 hours. It was a lot of driving for me. I got home around 5 p.m. and boiled some ziti and added two packages of basil pesto I’d frozen last year, topped with a sprinkling of parmesan. It was delish and I was in bed by 9 p.m.

The night before, I had taken everything for dinner, figuring on about six people. It turned out we were 10 family members, but with a big salad, two boxes of rigatoni, two enormous disposable pots of Sunday Gravy sauce (with four kinds of meat in it) and garlic bread, we had almost enough food for all.

My sister-in-law, Roslyn, had made peanut butter cookies. There were so many memories in her home, including the first time I’d met my soon-to-be husband.

We had such a good time that night, but we knew it might be the last time we would all be together. Two days later, Roslyn, her daughter, Jamisyn, and Jamisyn’s daughter left E. Bloomfield, N.Y., with Ros’s Border Collie, heading out for Jamie’s home in New Mexico. It may be a long visit for Roslyn, or it may be forever.

In any case, I had not made a big dinner for three months, since the pandemic curtailed the spring of 2020.

The day after I returned home, I raided the freezer in my garage and found some red shrimp I had bought at Trader Joe’s, maybe a year ago or maybe longer than that.

I remembered being excited when I bought it, because the only red shrimp I’d seen was from Stonington Seafood. The Bomsters, who owned Stonington Seafood, sold only the seafood that had caught themselves, on their own boat, where they were able to flash-freeze within minutes.

Do you remember when, getting seafood there, you picked up your fish from a freezer and left the money on an honor system? 

Anyway, I thawed the Trader Joe’s shrimp on a colander, then dried it and made scampi. (By the way, scampi is an Italian name for shrimp, so there is really no reason to call it shrimp scampi). It made a whole lot, so I topped the scampi on a pound of linguine and shared it with my neighbors. 

Photo by Frank Wouters from Antwerpen, Belgium, licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 2.0 Generic license.

Scampi

Yield: 4 servings

3 tablespoons extra-virgin olive oil
2 to 3 tablespoons butter
8 to 10 cloves garlic, minced
Zest of 1 lemon
1 cup (or a little more) good white wine
1 pound extra-large shrimp, shelled, deveined, dried
a little chicken broth for extra liquid, if needed (homemade or good canned)
20 to 25 grape tomatoes, halved (optional)
Juice of 1 lemon
2 tablespoons butter
salt and freshly ground pepper, to taste
fresh Italian parsley, chopped
freshly grated Parmigiano-Reggiano or Romano cheese (optional)

Bring stockpot of water over high heat.

While water is coming to a boil, in a large skillet, heat olive oil and butter. Add garlic; saute for 30 to 45 seconds. Add white wine and allow to reduce. Add zest and stir. Reduce heat and add shrimp. When they turn pink and curl up, turn them over. When done, add tomatoes (if using) and lemon juice and cook for another few minutes. Add another 2 tablespoons of butter. Cook for a minute.  Add salt and pepper to taste and toss with parsley (or toss parsley when serving).

Meanwhile, liberally salt boiling water and add pasta. Cook just until ‘al dente’ (something a little than package directions say). Drain pasta, and then add to sauce. Toss. Serve hot (and, although Italian purists cringe, I also serve freshly-grated Parmigiano-Reggiano or Romano cheese.)

About the author: Former Old Lyme resident Lee White has been writing about restaurants and cooking since 1976 and has been extensively published in the Worcester (Mass.) Magazine, The Day, Norwich Bulletin, and Hartford Courant.  She currently writes a cooking column called A La Carte for LymeLine.com and also for the Shore Publishing and Times newspapers, both of which are owned by The Day. 

Legal News You Can Use: What to Do, What to Avoid When Creating a Co-parenting Plan

Co-parenting may become the new reality for parents after divorce. Photo by Jude Beck on Unsplash.

When a couple with minor children gets divorced, they face areas of adversity that childless divorcees or those with children, who are of legal age, will never know. Co-parenting may become the new reality for parents after divorce.

The couples that make it work are willing to make some minor concessions, create a plan that works for the children, and stick to it. There are do’s and don’t’s to follow when creating a co-parenting plan that will benefit the children and accommodate both parents’ schedules.

The Do’s

  • Consider your child’s situation: What will their new life be like? How much travel will be involved? Will it interfere with the child’s usual routine? Young children thrive with stability, so limiting distractions will benefit any child involved in a divorce.
  • Think about proximity: When you and your partner divorce, one or both of you may move out of the prior residence. If you do, how is this going to impact your children? Will they be able to attend the same school and be around their friends? Will you be able to keep using the babysitter your children are used to seeing? These are all important questions.
  • Talk with your spouse about letting your children speak their minds: Especially if your children are older and have a very detailed routine, they may have an opinion on their new schedule or bring up a good point that neither of you had considered.
  • Special needs: Does your child have special needs? If so, that must be addressed and planned around when considering your new home, custody arrangements, and any other change in their schedule and routine.

The Don’ts

  • Don’t focus on your convenience: Parenting is hard work. Making the co-parenting plan convenient only for you can create stress between you and your ex-spouse. Successful and amicable co-parents learn how to compromise together to ensure your children’s best interests are met.
  • Store away the need to win and seek revenge: Co-parenting shouldn’t be a competition; focus on the children’s best interests. Believe that your ex is also making the necessary concessions to make the plan work. If your ex makes a mistake a couple of times, try to avoid seeking revenge and resentment, because we all make mistakes. The time will come when you will likely have an issue (flat tire, stuck at work, etc.) that will interfere with the pick-up plan or cause your ex-spouse to pick up the slack. It happens. But if the errors become constant, it’s time for a more serious conversation.
  • Don’t belittle the other parent: Some parents don’t think so, but both parents have strengths that can help their children grow. Children should be able to rely on both of their parents. Most parents can learn new skills if offered the opportunity.

Lastly, don’t say yes to a schedule with “assumed conditions”. If your ex has to move to your child’s current school district, make sure the move is complete before agreeing to the co-parenting schedule. As stated above, successful co-parents stick to the plan and only make concessions when necessary.

This post is sponsored by Suisman Shapiro Attorneys-at-Law.

Editor’s Notes: i) Suisman Shapiro is physically located at 75 State Street, New London, CT 06320. Their mailing address is 2 Union Plaza, P.O. Box 1591 New London, CT 06320.

ii) As Suisman Shapiro slowly begins to expand operations in their office building once again, the staff has made painstaking efforts to assure that their public spaces and work areas are thoroughly cleaned daily. Hand sanitizer is available at each entrance to our offices, and of course, everyone is carefully practicing social distancing.  Additionally, arrangements have been made for our clients to meet one-on-one with their attorney in a separate conference space. There is no need to enter the workspace or visit the reception area.  Prior to your appointment, your attorney will make specific arrangements with you regarding when and where to meet.

iii) Family law attorneys at Suisman Shapiro can discuss divorce and co-parenting issues with you and answer questions on the subject. Visit their website or call 800-499-0145 — lines are open 24 hours a day.

Celebrate Old Lyme PGN Library’s ‘Founder’s Day’ Today With Free, Curbside Ice-Cream!

The Old Lyme Phoebe Griffin Noyes Library is offering free, curbside ice cream today in celebration of its 122nd birthday. 

OLD LYME — The Phoebe Griffin Noyes (PGN) Library in Old Lyme turns 122 today!

To celebrate ‘Founder’s Day,’ PGN staff will be serving free ice-cream curbside Tuesday, June 23, at noon. All are invited to stop by for a free ice-cream, to wave to the staff and get ready for Phoebe’s Summer Bingo.

The ice-cream is sponsored by the Old Lyme Historical Society and the Lyme-Old Lyme Chamber of Commerce.

The PGN Library itself remains closed to the public due to COVID-19 and ongoing interior renovations. If you need assistance using their online resources, help connecting to local or regional services, or general research assistance, call 860-598-0490 and a staff member will assist you from home.

The Library will begin accepting returns on Monday, July 6. All returned items will be quarantined for 72 hours in compliance with state and CDC requirements. Due to this, the book drops will remain closed, but materials may be dropped off at the Library during the following times:

  • Monday-Thursday: 9 a.m. – 7 p.m.
  • Friday: 9 a.m. – 5 p.m.
  • Saturday: 9 a.m. – 1 p.m.

The PGN Library staff and board anticipate reopening in a limited capacity later in July once the shelving and collections are back in place.